Men’s liberties make clear exactly why dating is really hard for men 

Why Is It So Hard To Find The Right Guy?

Let’s diagnose some of the reasons why online is so hard along with a few solutions. Men live longer when they are in relationships, women’s life spans do not change between single and in a relationship. There is a benefit men gain from relationships they cannot get outside of it, when women don’t experience that to the same extent. I mean, I know personally I was perfectly fine being single and had a “whatever” attitude towards dating for most of my post-puberty life. Obviously none of what I’ve said above is a universal experience, but I believe it is the general trend.

You have to hold your head up, look at people, smile, and strike up the odd conversation every now and then. It’s hard not to engage in conversation in a coffee shop. Sure, this one is totally cliche, but it’s still one of the best ways to meet people. Plus, everyone knows that the minute you stop looking for a date and get busy doing something else, a great guy appears into your life. Good things happen when people gather in town squares, or you know, the recreation center for a hockey game or bake sale. The last time you taught yourself something new, or read a new book, or cooked a new dish, or even explored a new aspect of yourself.

It’s hard to meet people in this day and age but imagine if you were in a pioneer family in the 1800s – you’d have very little opportunity to meet members of the opposite sex, so when you did you’d be at your best. Join a club or church group, or volunteer where a woman can get to know you. And, modern guys just aren’t very dateable based on all of this.

Most importantly, it will unleash his deep feelings of attraction. Since humans first evolved, men have wanted to stand up for the woman in their lives. Lugging that emotional baggage around can keep people from truly connecting and opening themselves up to new experiences.

I have gone to tons of Meetup events, but those don’t seem to ever have single guys around my age, and for the past year or so, Meetup has been dead due to COVID. Heck, I’ve tried all kinds of things in the past, from a running club, to indoor rock climbing, to volleyball. I’ve also done volunteer work for a local wildlife conservation group. I’m not sure why, but men in their 20s and 30s don’t seem to join these things.

Ultimately, Tinder is popular because it’s dead simple to use. Because of its simplicity, Tinder has become the “default” dating app of much of the world. When you create such a polarizing, “tribal” profile, your match rate with people outside the “tribe” may decrease quite a bit, but it will steeply increase with people who are in the same “tribe” as you are.

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